Sunday, September 2, 2018

Gothic Mommy Spotlight: Kitty Jitters

Interview with Kitty Jitters

GM: How old are your children and what are their names?

            Kitty Jitters: My son Josef Gallifrey is 6 and my daughter Lydia Enid is 4.

GM: How did you decide on names for your kiddos?

            Kitty Jitters: Josef comes from my husband’s family and Gallifrey is a Dr. Who reference. My daughter us named after Lydia Deetz and Enid Coleslaw (Ghost World).

GM: How was your experience with pregnancy? And what was your experience with labor and delivery?

            Kitty Jitters: I had pretty easy pregnancies luckily. My son's birth was difficult though. We had planned a home birth, but he ended up being breech. He basically turned back around and sat down on my cervix.  I had to go in for a C-section in the end. My daughter was a scheduled C-section, which some people can be judgmental about, but my anxiety was really bad with my 2nd pregnancy and I honestly couldn't have done it mentally another way, I don't think. Oh, and trying to find maternity clothes I didn't hate in stores in Kentucky... good luck! I basically wore pajamas.

GM: How has it been for your children growing up with a "gothically inclined" mommy?

            Kitty Jitters: My kids are still pretty little so they're still not quite sure what they think.

GM: Are they ever embarrassed or do they love your style?

            Kitty Jitters: Now that Josef is in school he's noticed his parents aren't quite like most kids'. Lydia still thinks mommy is the prettiest (for now) but she's obsessed with pink somehow and really wants me to wear baby pink everything.

GM: What is your favorite thing to do with each of your children?

            Kitty Jitters: I love to paint with my son, its one of his favorite things too. Right now my favorite thing to do with Lydia is just to talk. She's going through I hilarious story-telling phase and I want to encourage that imagination.

GM: Do you have any tips for new or expecting mothers?

            Kitty Jitters: Trust yourself, but don't be afraid to ask for help when you need it. Don't let someone tell you that you can't be yourself because you’re a parent.

GM: Is there anything else you would like to share about your motherhood experience thus far?

            Kitty Jitters: I'm sure my kids will be embarrassed by mommy’s "gothness" eventually, but it’s not as though parents visiting embarrassment upon their children is anything new or shocking.

Besides raising her two children, Kitty Jitters maintains a Youtube Channel and Instagram full of great posts! If you would like to learn more about her, check out the links below!

Wednesday, August 29, 2018

Homeschooling Lilith: August Update

Hello everyone, the past week I have put out two new videos showcasing what Lilith and I are doing for her preschool at home. Please check out the videos and tell me what you think of our daily learning practice!

Friday, August 3, 2018

saalt Menstrual Cup Review

I purchased the saalt menstrual cup from Amazon after watching several videos on Youtube about how amazing menstrual cups are. They reduce your waste from feminine hygiene products, reduce your risk for Toxic Shock Syndrome, and make your period less painful, horrible, and constricting. It all sounded really great to me! I love anything that reduces waste, and one of my late-in-the-year goals has been to reduce our household waste from products we use frequently around the house. After having my daughter I was (most of the time) unable to use tampons, which led me to having to use pads instead. After a while the normal pads started to cause horrible skin irritation and in turn, switch to pads with "flex foam" which were a bit more expensive, but caused less irritation. However, this didn't solve the issue of wanting to swim but not being able to use tampons without feeling like the painful Sahara desert. Thus my decision to give the menstrual cup a go!

I searched around Amazon looking for the cup with the best reviews. There were several with high reviews, but not every cup works best for every person. After a lot of research, I finally came to the conclusion that I just needed to give one of the cups a try. Finally I decided to give the saalt cup a chance! I liked the description of the type of silicone used in this cup, loved the design of the packaging, the fact that it comes with a discrete bag, and the fact that it can be used up to 12 hours in a row.

When I received the package, I was delighted to see that it wasn't crushed, and everything looked exactly as described. The kit came with the cup, storage bag, instructions, and a little set of information about menstrual cups and what makes saalt's cup unique. I was super excited to try the cup, but had just finished with my cycle. I waited till the next time it started, and inserted the cup when I just began spotting. I had heard this was the best way to insure that there were no leaks at the beginning of your period, as some blood prior to insertion could cause spotting.

Insertion was a bit difficult at first, definitely not as straight forward as a tampon. I decided on the "taco fold" and a slight squat position to insert, this seemed the easiest for me. Once you insert the cup you have to wiggle it a little bit to ensure that it unfolds, then a slight tug will tell if the cup is sealed or needs to be repositioned. It took me a couple of tries the first time, and also an uncomfortable first ten minutes before I realized that it wasn't high enough (it has to be close to the cervix).

It really didn't feel like I was using a product, which was crazy.. I had to keep running to the bathroom to check, but sure enough, no spotting at all. After that it became rather intuitive, rinse the cup when it felt like it might be getting full, or every 12 hours as stated on the packaging. I found that rinsing with cold water got the blood off without staining, and then rinsing in scolding hot water sanitized the cup for reinsertion. There was no odor when using the cup, I hardly felt it, and my cramps (which were definitely not as bad as some people's) were less intense. I used the cup through my whole period, and didn't need any other products the entire time, not even at the end when it was a low flow day. After I was done (my period is short, only around 3 days total), the cup is washed and boiled to sanitize. Then just pop it in the bag to store it for next time.

Overall I would say that the purchase was well worth the money! We ordered it along with a few other products on Amazon, and I would say that total the product was close to $30 with shipping and everything. When you spend $7-12 per month on feminine hygeine products that totals $84-144/year. The menstrual cup lasts for up to ten years, so I would say that the money is definitely well spent. I believe if you are a virgin, or someone who has never used tampons before (I didn't use them until I lost my virginity), this would probably not be something that you could use easily. However, I would recommend that everyone give it a try at some point!

saalt Menstrual Cup on Amazon

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Thursday, July 26, 2018

Lilith's 3rd Birthday: An Interview

For Lilith's 3rd Birthday, I wanted to start a new tradition. She is starting to become very articulate and I thought, what better than an interview to keep track of her progress through the years. So, without further ado, here is my interview with Ms. Lilith Sue-Ann:

1. What is something mommy always says to you?
     L: Huh? *mumbles* Lightning McQueen
2. What makes you happy?
     L: Lightning McQueen
3. What makes you sad?
     L: Monsters
4. What makes you laugh?
     L: The Pool
5. How old are you?
     L: Lily [explained not who, but how old] Big!
6. How old is mommy?
     L: Big ["Bigger than you?"] Yes!
7. How old is daddy?
     L: Big!! ["Bigger than mommy?"] Yes!
8. What do you want to be when you grow up?
     L: Lightning McQueen
9. What are you really good at?
     L: Monsters
10. What are you not very good at?
     L: Not the monsters
11. What did you do today?
     L: Crowns at the supermarket [we tried on play crowns at the dollar store]
12. What is your favorite kind of food?
     L: "Kakitos" [Taquitos]
13. What is your favorite song?
     L: Lightning McQueen song
14. What do you want for your birthday?
     L: An Elevator!!!
15. What is your favorite animal?
     L: Moose!! I like mooses!!
16. What is love?
     L: In my birthday party.
17. What does daddy do for work?
     L: Outside, when it's dark
18. Where do you live?
     L: Animals at the zoo. For my birthday party too.
19. Where is your favorite place to go?
     L: Supermarket, at the toys too!

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These interview questions were found here: Toddler 21 Questions

Monday, July 23, 2018

2018 Top 5 Goth Nursery Ideas

#5: Black Patterns

This theme incorporates black patterns on white backgrounds for a simplistic, yet goth-y vibe. 
Here is the Amazon Idea List: Black Patterns

#4: Halloween

I know.. I know.. how could Halloween be #4?! These themes were all really close, and I absolutely love the idea of having a Halloween themed nursery for my next child, but it has been an overdone theme.. thus its spot at #4. Still a great theme though (and I probably will use if I ever get to decorate a nursery again)!
Here is the Amazon Idea List: Halloween

#3: Texture

This theme is pretty straight forward and simple. Black and grey with varying textures. Definitely a great idea for a developing little mind! 
The Amazon Idea List: Texture

#2: Floral

Now, my favoring this, might have something to do with the fact that I have a daughter, but I saw this floral blanket, and new that this needed to be the #2 theme for this year! Florals are really "in" again (no that that really matters to goths, but it's true). So, check it out before you fret about it..
The Amazon Idea List: Floral

#1: Enchanted Forest

This theme has kind of haunted me since I first saw pictures of a lamp casting shadowy tree limbs on the walls and ceiling and decided that this would be an amazing theme for a nursery. This theme combines my love of magic and the etherial with my love of all things dark! Definitely check this one out!
Amazon Idea List: Enchanted Forest

Saturday, July 21, 2018

Goth Fashion Doll DIY

For this DIY you will need:

  • Fashion Doll/Barbie/Equivilent
  • Socks/Fabric
  • Permanent Markers/Paint Pens/Fabric Pens/etc.
  • Needle and thread/Elastic Hair Tie
  • Cotton Swabs
  • Rubbing Alcohol/Acetone
  • Paper (to protect your work surface)
  • Gloves (to protect your hands)
  • Masking/Painters' Tape


Step 1: Hair

Be sure to remove all of the dolls clothing, accessories, and hair ties (if she has them). Then start on "dying" her hair. I did this by slowly working around her head, going back and forth with a black permanent marker to turn her blond hair black. 

After coloring the doll's hair as much as you would like, you will need to style it. This could simply mean combing it back down, or (if your doll was like Lilith's and had a ponytail) pull the hair up into an updo. I decided on this fancy "fanned bun" style that I came up with. You can use an elastic band to secure the hair in place, or go for a more permanent approach like me, and use the needle and thread to attach the hairstyle to the dolls head.

Step 2: Makeup

After the hairstyle is done, you can move on to the makeup on your doll. I didn't feel like my art skills are tuned enough currently to try to paint on a whole new face.. or even a little makeup for that matter.. so I used more permanent markers to draw a gothic style makeup around her existing makeup. I drew over her eyebrows so they would match her new hair color, then added a crease color and made it into a little cat eye, with an accent underneath the eye. Finally I finished it off with some black "lipstick". 

At this point you can do a BONUS STEP: Which is to clean up the marker that has rubbed around or accidentally gotten onto places you didn't want it. This is where the cotton swab and alcohol or acetone come in handy. Simply put a put of either liquid on the cotton swab and rub over the areas to clean carefully. Acetone works better for this, but will take the paint for her face off, so be VERY careful!!

Step 3: Clothing

For this step you can either purchase doll clothing that you feel is in a gothic aesthetic, or you can use fabric (I chose a set of black dress socks from the dollar store to use) and make clothing yourself. If you would like to make the clothing yourself, it would be best to watch the video of this DIY Tutorial for a look into how I made my dolls outfit. (Video at the bottom of this post).

This is just a simple DIY that I created on my own, without doing research into Doll repainting/redesigning and using materials that I already had or could purchase fairly cheaply. This doll is for my 3 year old daughter, so I didn't create her to be a special art piece, just something that Lilith could play with that looked more like mommy does! I spent only $2 (the doll and socks at the Dollar Tree) and I think it turned out really well! If you have any questions for me, definitely leave them in the comments section and I will answer them as quickly as I can! 

Hope you enjoyed this DIY tutorial!

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Thursday, July 19, 2018

Vlog - Moving to Tulsa (Part 2 - Finale)

The final part of our move back to Tulsa. Look forward to the upcoming tour of our new Travel Trailer!!

Wednesday, July 18, 2018

Summer Favorites 2018

As summer is coming to a close, I wanted to quickly share my summer favorites before it was too late! Below are just a few of the things I love this summer:

First, my favorite pair of summer shoes, have definitely been (and are continuing to be) these super cool jelly sandal/slides. They keep my feet from getting hot, don't irritate my toes, and are super stylish in a futuristic kinda way! 

Next is my favorite scent this summer.. at least for the house! This is the Fuzzy Blanket scent from Scentsy, which my mom purchased for me as a baby shower gift (along with another baby themed scent, and my awesome pumpkin lace melting lamp). It smells all cotton-y and cozy, I absolutely love it! Plus it works well with our summer (Mandarin) scented Febreze and candle combo. All together, they make the house smell super amazing!! 

This scent is no longer available, but here is a similar scent:

My next favorite for summer is this awesomely refreshing Pomegranate scented Hydrating Body Spritz from Lemongrass Spa (an all-natural products company). This body spray is hydrating, while making me smell amazing! The best thing about it, is since it is all natural I can spray it everywhere (even on Lilith)!

As far as drinks go, I HAVE to have coffee! During the summer it is nice to have an iced/cold option, this SToK Cold Brew coffee, along with Starbucks Iced Mocha, is definitely killing it on the front of kicking my day into high gear while staying cool! (< this sounds so damn cheesy, but is def true! lol)

The last item on my summer favorites list would definitely have to be this headband! During the cooler months I let my fringe band hang out on my forehead, but during the summer this is impossible (due to to sweat messing up my bangs, and then my forehead breaking out). Headbands in general are a necessity, but this one is particularly life saving, as it has held up well to washing and maintains it's tightness! Definitely a life saver!!

Hope this information will be helpful to someone!! Thanks for reading! 😼